Week 21 Wrap-Up

Plus, you know, all those other weeks in between.

Joel, Sisu, myself, and little bebe-to-be are all doing well. I’ve not been keeping up with these posts because it seems we’ve been sick a long time. We became sick sometime around Christmas and we’ve been kindly passing it around as each of us gets healthy again. On top of the constant cold passing I’ve also had a UTI, which was probably lingering for some time before it became apparent. I’ve only recently had symptoms clearly pointing to a UTI. The midwives have linked the pain in my right side and some fluid retention in my right kidney to the UTI, and I’m hoping that with the UTI clearing up the pain won’t return.

I’m getting to the point in my pregnancy where wearing the support belt is going to be helpful. I’ve worn it a couple of times, but with all the pressure on my bladder it was counter-productive. I can’t wait to actually feel “better” from this wretched UTI.

I’ve been continuing to carry Sisu around on my back via our Ergobaby Carrier while pregnant and it’s kind of nice because it evens me out a bit when she’s on my back. If you or yours are expecting a baby and you’re looking for a good carrier which is going to hold up over time and wear, I highly suggest the Ergobaby. We started using ours when Sisu was around 6 months and it’s kept us free and clear of strollers with a happy kid along for the ride. I still plan on using my homemade moby-wrap for when baby number two is a newborn. Ergobaby has an infant insert, but I really love how my homemade moby is nice and snuggly.

Oh, and BIG NEWS: Continue reading

Week 14 Wrap-Up

Boy, I’ve been slack-a-lackin. We’ve had an insane few months, so let me catch everyone up on the progress.

A week or two after Joel injured his back, we got a phone call informing us that we had an outstanding bill for our local hospital. I was very confused because I didn’t think we’d received a bill for Joel’s ER visit yet. Come to find out it was a bill from Sisu’s birth. Yes, folks, a year and a half later, the hospital is finally billing us for my daughter’s birth.

Weeks before Sisu’s birth, I called BCBS to ask what amount we should be expected to pay because I’m not stupid and I know surgery ain’t cheap and it certainly isn’t free. The woman at BCBS informed me that our annual deductible had been met and the amount we would need to pay would be negligible. As in a few hundred dollars. I had her verify this information three times because I didn’t believe her. After Sisu’s birth I was sent a large bill from the hospital which showed BCBS had paid some amount. I called BCBS to contest the amount I was expected to pay and I called them at least a dozen times over the next few months asking for the status of the internal investigation. They were supposed to be validating my claim of misinformation. Every phone call informed me that the investigation hadn’t even started and there was no way to directly contact the department which was supposed to be investigating this claim. Six months after the original bill was issued, I called the hospital to explain what was going on and I was informed that if the Insurance did not refile the claim or if there was no action in x-days, I would be reissued a bill and expected to pay out of pocket. I understood and thanked them.

Around a month later I was issued a bill and set up a payment plan to pay it. Unfortunately It was not the hospital bill, but a bill from my pediatrician’s office. BCBS had also screwed up the pediatrician bills from the hospital, but it was billed through the pediatrician’s office. The hospital has now reissued a bill, and here we are with 15 month old Sisu cleaning out our savings to pay the bill outright and clear the debt. This has put us in a bit of a tight budget, but we’re definitely on the upward slope.

I don’t say this because I expect miscellaneous donations to pour in. I don’t. Please keep your money, or better yet, give it to someone who needs it. But I want to share this information to illustrate how terrible and uninformed the health insurance industry is, and how absurdly expensive it is to have a child these days. You should brace your bank account with around $5,000 in savings if you believe you may have a c-section. This is more than we needed to pay, but it’s less than half of what our hospital bill was before insurance. You should be prepared financially.

All of that out of the way, I’m starting to feel a bit more energy these past couple of weeks. I can tell I’m transitioning into the second trimester with all these little energetic bursts, but then there are times I just want to curl up and sleep a month. Those first trimester hibernation urges are tapering off slowly.

Something I don’t remember writing about last time around is the feeling of my chest getting heavy. Maybe because my cup size jumped early in my first pregnancy and I didn’t notice a gradual shift. This time around I can feel my chest not just getting larger, but heavier. It’s a strange sensation.

Also a bit different this time around is the way my organs are moving around to make way for baby. I’m not sure if the different feeling is just because it’s my second pregnancy, or if it has something to do with having most of those organs pulled out onto a table just over a year ago, but the shifting around feels different and sometimes very uncomfortable. Things will pinch at times or lurch from one spot to another. It’s a strange and sometimes unnerving feeling.

I’m feeling more pressure on my diaphragm as well. With all the organs squishing north, I can tell that I can no longer fully expand my lungs. This is probably something I’m very sensitive to after my limited experience singing. The limit in lung expansion isn’t really a huge problem, I rarely get short of breath due to daily physical exertion, but it does cause some anxiety that needs to be squelched instantly. Yoga is excellent help on that front.

Joel is doing much better. His physical therapy sessions have made all the difference in the world and he is now walking cane-free. The gait of his walk is still a little irregular, but it’s evening out over time. Although it happened in a terrible way, I think we’re both glad that the physical therapy is helping his recent back injury and also issues he may have had in his past. We’re all around improving and hoping that Christmas and New Year’s are a bit quieter.

Week 10 & 11 Wrap Up

The day before I published the week 9 wrap up I had my first visit with the OB and during that visit Joel watched Sisu so that I didn’t need to wrangle a toddler while having all my lady parts checked out. During that time she got a little restless and as he was picking her up she threw her weight. His back was a little sore, nothing severe, so we tried to ignore the pain and moved on. Unfortunately the pain just slowly got worse until the following Wednesday when Joel woke up very stiff. Continue reading

Late on the Wrap-Up

This past week has been very busy, hence the delay in a weekly wrap up post. My husband sustained an unfortunate back injury which led to an ER trip, followup doctor appointments and we’ll soon begin a vigorous physical therapy schedule to get him up and running efficiently. I’ll update on all these things Wednesday in a combined week 10&11 wrap-up, but this is your filler post to know that I’m not dead yet.

To keep your proverbial mouth watering, I’ve got some back-burner posts I hope to publish soon. Book reviews, product recommendations, and reflections on toddler-hood. I’m also going to analyze the ultrasound pictures of both Sisu and baby-to-be to see if that placenta-side-of-the-uterus thing has any bearing. Still keeping fingers crossed for a boy. We’re not really sure what we’d name a girl.


*tugs collar awkwardly*


Week 9 Wrap-Up

Mostly Uneventful. Well, pregnancy is always eventful, but usually from the inside out. I did want to cover a few things I forgot to detail in the last post. “Why didn’t you cover those things in the last post,” you ask? I’ll tell you. I don’t know.

Just kidding, the reason is caffeine.  Continue reading

Week 8 Wrap-up

Well, here we are again. There isn’t much to tell so early on. I’m guessing baby was conceived around week 3, and during week 4, 5, and 6 I had bursts of energy quite regularly. At the start of week 7 I started feeling usual first trimester symptoms. I have increased migraines during weather changes, I am frequently nauseated, and I would love nothing more than to hibernate for days on end. Continue reading

Writing a Delivery Plan Email

Many women spend a lot of time writing birth plans, but I find a common forgotten element of birth prep is ensuring that family communication is prepped. I chose to prep my family with an email that told them the plan, what to expect, and what I expected of them. Let me walk you through the basics. Continue reading

Post-Breastfeeding Depression

I didn’t become depressed immediately following my daughter’s birth. And I wasn’t depressed in the many months that followed. I thought I was in the clear for PPD, but then all of a sudden I didn’t want to get out of bed in the morning. I was waspish, I felt helpless to control my irritability, and I was angry. Really, really angry. As if I had a rage constantly bubbling beneath the surface and it was all I could do to contain it. The biggest red flag was one weekend when I was being particularly critical of my husband, and then watching my daughter play I began instructing her to play another way because I felt she was playing wrong. I reeled back at myself and I started researching PPD. This is what I found. Continue reading

Russian Roulette

I have a few posts to wrap up in the next couple of weeks, but there’s a big announcement making its way around. We’re expecting bébé #2! I’ll have a number of new posts to talk about pregnancy number two, and I think it’ll be a good opportunity for any readers interested in learning about pregnancy to compare how different (or similar) my two pregnancies will be/have been. This pregnancy is already pretty different, but I’m planning on writing a kick-off post to get baby #2’s info started. In the mean time, I have two posts to publish before that kick off gets started. So look for more frequent updates here now that little miss is getting more independent and surprise! we’ve got a second on the way.

Everybody keep your fingers crossed for a boy! ^.^